Sometimes, the answer may not be what we’re expecting.
Often, when I’m faced with a challenge, I ask myself a barrage of questions like:
What can I do differently?
How else can I achieve the result I’m after?
What’s another way I can tackle this?
And in reality, one of those questions (or similar ones) will usually bring me to a helpful answer.
But once in a while (usually after my head is very sore from banging it against a metaphorical brick wall), I come to realize that maybe the right question doesn’t focus on what I’m doing / should be doing / could be doing - but rather on what I should STOP doing.
I’ve just come to such a realization.
This week, I’m going to stop paying attention to things that are 100% out of my control. There are an awful lot of awful things going on in the world right now. (Yes, I meant to write it that way.) Being informed and up to date on them seems like a responsible, adult thing to do, right? But I finally recognized that because these particular things are out of my control, it’s really been draining my energy. I’m not denying them or pretending the issues don’t exist - I’m just going to stop making them MY problem.
Time to focus on the only thoughts, words and actions I can control - my own!
Time to go back to basics and check my alignment with my Personal Guidance System.
And time to reclaim my mental energy and attention away from things I can’t control.
After all... I’m MORTAL, my time, attention and energy are precious.
Center of control VS Center of influence. Understanding this will reduce your anxiety.